Okay, so living on a remote tropical island where my twins are the only twins I’ve seen means the little ladies get a lot of attention when out in public. That’s fine. Overwhelmingly it is good attention, interspersed with a little weird attention, and every once in a while a bit of bad attention Crazy Train. Whatever, we can all handle that. Sometimes, however, a tricky situation arises when good attention suddenly turns bad- when people you don’t know overstep the line. Do other Moms experience this?
It always happens to me at airports. People get crazy and grabby at airports. This makes me knuckle-cracking nervous and borderline panicky because I never forget for a jungleminute that my twinnies are preemies. Preemies have delicate little systems, delicate little lungs, and as big and strong as they seem to me now at 8 months, I’ll never forget the sight of my 3lb 2oz spider-limbed Lulu, and the fact that they are still at risk until about the age of 2, and all the intensity and preemie complications I felt and witnessed at the NICU. We’ve been lucky as heck, knock on wood, no major respiratory infections, ear infections, etc. I attribute some of it to luck, a lot to breast milk, and even more to hosing down visitors in purell. A few weeks ago I slipped up, relaxed my standards with a visiting friend, and we all ended up with the worst cold in jungle history, the one I’ve been whining about for days on end.
Anyway, so at the airport on Thursday a pair of cute and friendly older Japanese ladies stopped by to see the girls. We don’t speak Japanese and they didn’t speak English, but we pretty much understood eachother. They thought Lulu looks more like me and Mumu looks more like Jungledad, etc. Its was all going well, then the grabbing started. Out of no where they started grabbing hands and faces. Red light flashing! Alarms! Germs everywhere! BeepBeepBeepBeepBeep! Step away from the babies! Of course, there were no alarms. I just froze in fear and didn’t do didley. I wish people wouldn’t touch babies without permission. I hate to be uptight about it but I am.
That incident wasn’t as bad as the last airport incident though. That one really freaked me out. We were flying to New England to visit relatives. It takes many flights and about 36 hours to get to my Mum’s house from here, no joke. Anyway, so we were zombie faced at the San Francisco airport, wandering around with the dread of several more hours in the journey, when we plopped down to have a rest and were immediately pounced upon. Out of no where, a young Korean couple with an expensive video camera dragged their heavy airport chairs across the terminal until they were inches away from us, then stuck the camera in the babies faces and started filming. The twins were still tiny at that point, around 3 months old but still smaller than the average newborn, and I was really freaked out. Way over the line. We moved to different chair but they followed us, kept following us. Due to the language barrier, our words were not understood. We couldn’t shake them until we walked to a airport cafe and sat down in a booth. The whole experience really shook me up. I don’t think that couple meant to bother or upset us, but did they ever. They were so excited to see twins, to film twins, that their enthusiasm seriously clouded their judgement.
Does this stuff happen to other Moms of twins?